Originally Posted by Pondatti_Dasan
I am a new member in this forum. I have been browsing this forum for many years but didnt find the need to create an account. Now I need help and suggestion from members here as I dont know who I could ask these doubts.
Now coming to my problem, I am 31 years old and my wife is 29 (She is very good looking and sexy too). We have been married for 5 years. We are having a happy life till a few months ago. Now my main problem is I think my wife is cheating on me. Please dont think that I am a suspecting husband always keeping eye on wife. I love her a lot and will love her no matter what but with this doubt in mind I cannot do anything. It keeps pestering me. We always have a god sex life too. Nothing super human or kinky stuff like in porn but a perfectly normal sex life where both me and my wife attain orgasm. We dont even have any emotional problems between us and I dont know what is the reason for her to cheat me. Let me tell the reasons why I think she is having sex with someone else.
1) For the past few months she has been avoiding having sex with me. This has never happened in 5 years of our marriage and I even spoke to her about it but she says everything is OK. She doesnt have any health problems it just looks like she has no interest in sex with me.
2) She has started to talk about sex with others like a fantasy in rare occasion that we have sex ( Nowadays only 2-3 times a month). I know its not just a fantasy because we have been browsing Xossip from the time we got married( When site was Exbii) She hated threesome or cheating thread and videos. Trust me I know she had zero interest in that but now she talks sex with others when I fuck her. Later she says just a fantasy.
3) Two of my neighbours said about a guy who visits my home almost daily. I am not a kind of guy who trust what neighbours say and I think spying on wife is a disgusting thing but I cant just ignore what others say right? That too neighbours are old couple and not gossip type and they didnt even complain they just asked if any of my relative lives with us because a guys comes home everyday.
4) After all these things I count not control my suspicion and checked security entry logs to my home in appartment office. To my complete shock almost everyday there has been an entry to my house and exit is only after 3 hours. But there is no entry in weekends only. And to even increase my heartbreak there have been three different guys who have been visiting my house regularly. I cant even imagine my wife like that but I cant deny this proof also.
5) And lastly, once I found a used condom in the sun-shade near our terrace. As it is an appartment it can be someone else also. But with all other things I dont know what to think.
I need suggestion from you guys help me with the way forward. Is my suspicion true or is there some other explaination. I still love my wife and want it all to be false but I dont know. Help me people. Sorry for this long post but I have nowhere else to go with this problem.
P.S: I have been using this site and have had wife swap fantasy and everything. But thinking it is happening really is something else and believe me its not at all a good feeling.
@3 different guys- it might be possible that, only one guy is visiting, but using different names in the entry log, if dats da case, u might be looking at an affair, nt a sexual fantasy of having sex with strangers. But everything said and done, the only way out of it, is to talk to her directly and confront her with the above mentioned evidences, and c how it works out.
@u wanting to spend your entire life with her-- buddy, this is my personal opinion, bt trust is very hard to build, she has broken yours now. If I were to be in your place, I wouldnt give her another chance, bt as i mentioned earlier- my personal opion.
do let us know what happened..